It is so easy to look at ourselves and only see our “flaws” or “failures.” Part of the beauty of nature are the “imperfections” that make everything unique. There is no “perfect” rose or tree. Each is different.
Perhaps what we see as “flaws” are nothing more than uniqueness. We get so hung up on what society, family, friends, religions, etc say we “should” be that lose sight of who we really are. Our physical appearance doesn’t really matter. Our clothes don’t matter. Our jobs don’t matter in the sense of our value as a person. We’re not our jobs. Who we are is so much more than the roles we play. We will never be what society thinks is “perfect.” And it doesn’t matter.
We grow when we embrace ourselves as we are. From there, we can set goals to who we want to become. We accept flaws and imperfections while striving to meet our highest right; who we are as a balanced person. When we see ourselves negatively because of flaws, that’s when we get stuck. The mental chatter starts. We view ourselves as “less,” “broken,” “terrible” and many other negative ways. Change and growth then seems impossible. Or that we don’t deserve good things.
I struggle a lot with the Committee of Negativity. For me, it’s comparison to who I was before the injury. I was a better person. Or was I? I did many things that I can’t anymore and I did other tasks much easier than now. Like running. I ran faster and longer then compared to now. But, did that mean that I was a better person or a better runner? Maybe. Today, I run for enjoymentwith no pressure to go longer or faster. Maybe this makes me a better runner. I enjoy the sensation of my feet hitting the ground, the smell of the air, the feeling of my breath and heart rate, the sight of the mountains or a farmer’s field or the deer. I’m more in tune and mindful than when I was so focused on pace and distance. So, am I “better” now or just different?
why do we look at ourselves so negatively and buy into labels?