I came across the quote yesterday while I did yoga.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves-regret of the past and fear of the future. ” – Fulton Ousler
“Coulda, shoulda, woulda”. We lose so much time chewing over the past. It keeps us stuck in the past, ruminating about past mistakes and missed chances. It does nothing for us. The past is gone and nothing can change that fact. The thief takes our forward momentum prevents us from a sense of peace with our pasts and the ability to forgive ourselves and others. As long as we regret the past, our lives are lived there- we are chained.
This is not to say that we should completely forget our pasts. There are valuable lessons there that helps us learn and grow as a person. But we should spend our time in the present, where we can take actions to build our futures.
We all have fears. The future is unknown and most people fear the unknown. We like to control everything and have a good shot at understanding what is happening. But if we fear the future, the thief takes our sense of hope and the ability to move forward and take risks. It may prevent you from trying something new and perhaps rewarding: such as a new job.
I had to get an endoscopy and colonscopy because of some concern over health issues. I was terrified. The fear of the future, both the process and the possible findings, almost kept me from having the procedure done. It was simply fear of the unknown future. I never had these procedures done, so they scared me. I survived. And they found a couple of things that are easy to treat now but would have caused more,serious problems later. My fear could have had a major impact on my health.
Looking to the future is good to set goals: for example, going to college and getting s degree. We have to look at that goal to plan our present.
Staying in the present allows us to take action to influence the future. Control is a myth. We control nothing in life. We influence what happens in our present and future. There are too many variables to control the outcomes. But without setting the goal and going after it, the goal will never happen. The their of fear hold back our future.
Throw off the chains of the past and move forward bravely.