Young woman or Old Crone?
Most people have seen this picture before or one similar. Do you see a young woman or old crone? Supposedly, which you see gives insight to what is foremost in your life. The Old One represents knowledge, wisdom, change, aging, depression or negativity. The Young Maiden represents growth, new beginnings, optimism. I find knowledge in both faces. In Wicca, the Goddess is represented in three faces: Maiden, Mother, and Crone. The Maiden is spring; new, fresh beginnings, sexual energy, adventure. The Mother is the nurturer; mature, represented by the summer. The Crone is one that most people find frightening; it is Winter, old age, death. However, death is not always physical death, it is often change; the ending of one thing and the start of another. The Crone is wisdom. It is She who stirs the Cauldron of Life. She greets you, teaches you, and gets you ready for your next incarnation. In life, She teaches us patience, acceptance, and how to manage change. Is the association with depression or negativity in this exercise more reflective of our society’s attitude toward, and fear of, aging and death?
Perceptions. How we view our lives and the world influences our experiences. If we describe our situation as hopeless or horrible, our mood is impacted, and our hope for a positive outcome is diminished. My brain injury is the most difficult situation I have ever experienced. It is overwhelming at times. Sometimes, I just want to quit.
What lessons have I learned from brain injury?
1. I lost independence- I learned to trust others more and accept help
2. My body changed. It is not as strong, I don’t have the same endurance- I learned to be accepting of where I am now. I embraced running as fun, not as a competition.
3. I experience pain, migraines and other headaches- I learned to listen to my body. I gained insight into people with chronic pain and other conditions.
4. My brain thinks slower- I learned to be quiet in my mind and wait for the words or knowledge I need to surface.
5. I have sensory overload. My mind does not process input efficiently- I learned adaptation. I look for ways to manage my symptoms and continue.
6. I learned to accept myself.
7. I learned to enjoy a slower pace of life.
8. I learned to embrace what I have with thankfulness.
9. Instead of focusing on the negative- I learned to look for the positive in any situation.
The picture also reflects flexibility. If you first saw the Old One, can you find the Maiden, or vice-versa? Finding alternatives to our viewpoints helps us be healthier and more balanced. For example, if you argue with your significant other, can you see their viewpoint? Even if you don’t agree, understanding their position helps resolve problems and build stronger relationships. Noticing and describing the negative in a situation locks us into the problem. Can you see other possibilities? Can you see the possible advantages or positive outcomes?